Showing posts with label Kindness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Kindness. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 10, 2023

‘It is a charity wrapped with dignity, my child.’

Treff Watts tells this story on the Appalachian Americans Facebook page:

An old man was on a corner selling his eggs when a woman stopped and asked how much he was charging.

The old man replied, '$0.25 an egg, Madam.' She said to him, 'I will take 6 eggs for $1.25, or I will leave.' The old man replied, 'Come take them at the price you want. This may be a good beginning because I have not been able to sell even a single egg today’. She took the eggs and walked away feeling she had won.

She got into her fancy car and went to a posh restaurant with her friend. There, she and her friend ordered whatever they liked. They ate a little and left a lot of what they ordered. Then she went to pay the bill. The bill cost her $45.00; she gave $50.00 and asked the restaurant owner to keep the change. This incident might have seemed normal to the owner but very painful to the poor egg seller.

The point is, why do we always show we have power when we buy from needy ones? And why are we generous to those who do not even need our generosity? My father used to buy simple goods from poor people at high prices, even though he did not need them. Sometimes he even used to pay extra for them. I got concerned by this act and asked him why he did so? My father replied, ‘It is a charity wrapped with dignity, my child.’



Thursday, January 5, 2023

A sentimental story that touches most of us---and why it touches us

The following story was forwarded to me by my friend Sam Swan. As far as I can tell, the story originated with the Act Biggy website and Facebook page. They do a mostly-good-news project with some gossip thrown in besides. This story is sentimental, and I think that it touches many of us because it is so well written that we can see the story progress as if we're watching an old black and white movie. Who doesn't want to root for a poor rural kid and a small-town businessperson who has good values? I think that we also like the magic of people doing the right thing because we don't always see that in our daily lives, though people do the right thing more often than not. We're at a moment where it feels as if that balance is changing, or might change. And perhaps we are also at a moment when many people are digging in on doing the right thing in response to that balance changing and that new kinds of radical humanism and theologies are meeting and have the potential to travel the same path, at least until conditions change for the better.

I bet that there are people in your community living out the values told about here. Find them and celebrate them if you can. 

I was at the corner grocery store buying some early potatoes. I noticed a small boy, delicate of bone and feature, ragged but clean, hungrily apprising a basket of freshly picked green peas. I paid for my potatoes but was also drawn to the display of fresh green peas. I am a pushover for creamed peas and new potatoes. Pondering the peas, I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation between Mr. Miller (the store owner) and the ragged boy next to me.

‘Hello Barry, how are you today?’

‘H’lo, Mr. Miller. Fine, thank ya. Jus’ admirin’ them peas. They sure look good.’

‘They are good, Barry. How’s your Ma?’

‘Fine.. Gittin’ stronger alla’ time.’

‘Good. Anything I can help you with?’

‘No, Sir. Jus’ admirin’ them peas.’

‘Would you like to take some home?’ asked Mr. Miller.

‘No, Sir. Got nuthin’ to pay for ’em with.’

‘Well, what have you to trade me for some of those peas?’

‘All I got’s my prize marble here.’

‘Is that right?

Let me see it’ said Miller.

‘Here ’tis.. She’s a dandy.’

‘I can see that. Hmmmmm, only thing is this one is blue and I sort of go for red. Do you have a red one like this at home?’ the store owner asked.

‘Not zackley but almost.’

‘Tell you what. Take this sack of peas home with you and next trip this way let me look at that red marble’. Mr. Miller told the boy.

‘Sure will. Thanks Mr. Miller:

Mrs. Miller, who had been standing nearby, came over to help me.

With a smile she said, ‘There are two other boys like him in our community, all three are in very poor circumstances. Jim just loves to bargain with them for peas, apples, tomatoes, or whatever.
When they come back with their red marbles, and they always do, he decides he doesn’t like red after all and he sends them home with a bag of produce for a green marble or an orange one, when they come on their next trip to the store.’

I left the store smiling to myself, impressed with this man. A short time later I moved to Colorado, but I never forgot the story of this man, the boys, and their bartering for marbles.

Several years went by, each more rapid than the previous one. Just recently I had occasion to visit some old friends in that Idaho community and while I was there learned that Mr. Miller had died. They were having his visitation that evening and knowing my friends wanted to go, I agreed to accompany them. Upon arrival at the mortuary we fell into line to meet the relatives of the deceased and to offer whatever words of comfort we could.

Ahead of us in line were three young men. One was in an army uniform and the other two wore nice haircuts, dark suits and white shirts…all very professional looking. They approached Mrs. Miller, standing composed and smiling by her husband’s casket.

Each of the young men hugged her, kissed her on the cheek, spoke briefly with her and moved on to the casket. Her misty light blue eyes followed them as, one by one, each young man stopped briefly and placed his own warm hand over the cold pale hand in the casket. Each left the mortuary awkwardly, wiping his eyes.

Our turn came to meet Mrs. Miller. I told her who I was and reminded her of the story from those many years ago and what she had told me about her husband’s bartering for marbles. With her eyes glistening, she took my hand and led me to the casket.

‘Those three young men who just left were the boys I told you about. They just told me how they appreciated the things Jim ‘traded’ them. Now, at last, when Jim could not change his mind about color or size….they came to pay their debt.’

‘We’ve never had a great deal of the wealth of this world,’ she confided, ‘but right now, Jim would consider himself the richest man in Idaho.’

With loving gentleness she lifted the lifeless fingers of her deceased husband. Resting underneath were three exquisitely shined red marbles.

It’s not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived. - Helen Walton

Thursday, December 1, 2022

Somewhere there is a truck driver who deserves some great thanks...

Soooooo this happened today. Our Bubba (a.k.a. Dakota) loves to watch for semi’s by our home on hwy 26 in Milton. Today he found a present that was thrown over the fence…. ..a new hat, t-shirt & semi truck! All he kept saying was Wow, Wow! He’s in heaven playing with his new truck & wearing his hat.
Thank you! Thank YOU! YOU made his day (and his momma & daddy’s days, too!) Please if you know C H Hall trucking telling them whoever did this is awesome! And everyone else that honks/ beeps for him. Sincerely, Momma Bear

Credit: Peggy Kribs Cadd and Daily Dose Of Kindness

 

Tuesday, November 29, 2022

Our baggage and our solidarity

The following post is getting passed around the Internet. Whatever its authenticity or original intent, many of us are going to be moved by this. And this got me thinking. Would something like this work in other settings like your church or synagogue or mosque, or at a union meeting, or at other community gatherings? In my world this is about learning solidarity. If you don't learn it as a kid, where and how can you learn it later in life?

This starts my 22nd year of teaching middle school. Yesterday was quite possibly one of the most impactful days I have ever had.

I tried a new activity called “The Baggage Activity”. I asked the kids what it meant to have baggage and they mostly said it was hurtful stuff you carry around on your shoulders.

I asked them to write down on a piece of paper what was bothering them, what was heavy on their heart, what was hurting them, etc. No names were to be on a paper. They wadded the paper up, and threw it across the room.

They picked up a piece of paper and took turns reading out loud what their classmate wrote. After a student read a paper, I asked who wrote that, and if they cared to share.

I’m here to tell you, I have never been so moved to tears as what these kids opened up and about and shared with the class.

Things like suicide, parents in prison, drugs in their family, being left by their parents, death, cancer, losing pets (one said their gerbil died cause it was fat), we giggled and on and on.

The kids who read the papers would cry because what they were reading was tough. The person who shared (if they chose to tell us it was them) would cry sometimes too. It was an emotionally draining day, but I firmly believe my kids will judge a little less, love a little more, and forgive a little faster.
This bag hangs by my door to remind them that we all have baggage. We will leave it at the door. As they left I told them, they are not alone, they are loved, and we have each other’s back.

I am honored to be their teacher.


Credit: Karen Wunderlich Loewe



Sunday, November 13, 2022

Today Is World Kindness Day



I don't often pay much attention to the proclamations or declarations telling us that it is this or that national day. Many of these are corporate attempts to sell things and distract us from more important tasks at hand. I do make exceptions, and I'm doing that today.

A reader of this blog sent me an e-mail from The Naked Mind and Annie Grace. I deeply appreciate the emphasis on sobriety and healthy lifestyles that I found there. The e-mail that was forwarded to me contained the following:

Yes, so many of you show me every day that there still is so much kindness in the world! Yet, we all know that we learn best through repetition so here are five more ways to be kind (when it counts!)

1) Filter it
I’m a firm believer in freedom of speech but I’m an even stronger believer of thinking before you speak! Consider your language choice. Ask if you’d speak to a child the way you’re going to talk to someone else. Take a moment to think about the intent behind what you’re going to say. Even if you have to literally bite your tongue and walk away to avoid commenting, sometimes that IS the best course of action and a way to be kind!

2) Listen more
Make a conscious effort to listen more than you speak. Sit back and allow people to talk. Learn from them, bond with them, and allow them to feel heard. Listening is truly the kindest thing we can do for another person.

3) Do the things that bring others joy
We often only do the things we want to or that benefit us. Yet the greatest personal rewards come from being of service to others. Small acts of kindness make a huge difference. I have a friend whose elderly mother loves to play a certain game. It’s a game my friend will never play in her free time or even suggest but she takes the time to play at least 2-3 games with her mom when she visits simply to bring her mom joy. Is that not the epitome of kindness?

4) Show compassion (even when they don’t deserve it)
The people who are the least kind themselves are probably those that need it the most. Show compassion and kindness even when someone does not deserve it. We are not at our best when we are hurting. I know I wasn’t. And I know that there were no outside indicators to show just how I was suffering. It is true that we don’t know what someone else is going through and our kindness and compassion might be a huge step in their own healing.

5) It starts with you!
The best way to practice kindness and have it become second-nature is by learning to show yourself kindness first. Practice positive self-talk, self-compassion, setting boundaries, and respecting yourself, your body, and your beliefs!

It really is cool to be kind!

 

Saturday, November 12, 2022

Please be kind to opossums.


It’s cold out there. Please be kind to opossums. Many of them find a cozy place to combat the cold. (so many we see are missing parts of tails, ears, toes, due to previous frost bite) and your garage or porch may be the only place they have, they won’t hurt anything, I promise, and shooing them out may be certain death due to lack of shelter. They are Northern America’s ONLY marsupial. And these precious souls eat fleas, ticks and other pests.

Please. This holiday season. Be kind. Be the change you wish to see in the world.